Thursday, 27 November 2014

Black Friday

It won't be black for me.  I'll be going for a walk with my dogs and then I'll be having fun.  I can't think of anything worse than having to jostle in shops for something I didn't even know I wanted nor needed :-)

It can be as cheap as you like, but if I don't want it, then it isn't cheap !

Wednesday, 26 November 2014

Dear America

What is that obsession you have with guns?  Where did it come from, and when did it start?

Ask an American the same question and the answer will probably be 'because we have the right to bear arms'.. probably laid down in some constitutional law  decades ago.. or that it's something to do with the ideaology of being self sufficient..  they have to pay for their own health care don't they?

I can't quite see the link between having to pay for your doctor and being able to carry a gun can you?

Take the ten commandments as an example of certain laws that we uphold such as 'thou shalt not kill'.  We all agree with that one don't we??  Then look at some of the other ones such as 'though shalt not covet thy neighbour's goods/wife........  inferring his wife is his property *swallows*

I'm trying to say that we as adults know the difference between right and wrong don't we?

                               We all know that a man does not own his wife unless it's role play and she wants to be owned  *cough*

..Not your bag then?.....  moves swiftly  on..................

Owning a gun is not something I aspire to.  Owning a gun runs the risk of one of us shooting someone with it, or killing a family pet.  It's not acceptable in this day and age to have a weapon of potential destruction in a family home where love prevails, but then again, I don't live in America, and we do have the NHS here.

Okay I'm being a bit sarcastic.  I'll get serious now.........

In a society that is gun obsessed, why on earth would you buy your twelve year old child a toy replica gun and send him outside to play with it, knowing somoene else could get the wrong idea and take him out???

But then again, why does America always feel the need to represent the rest of the world and be there in every situation in force, whether it be Afghanistan or Lybia, or Syria, or Israel?

Yes..  I know about oil.  I know it's all about the oil.  I am not stupid, but think of the wars where America has had a major presence - Google the question and you would be astounded.

There are desperately poor people living in that country.  It's not all the American dream you know, but I'd like to bet even some of poorest  own a gun "because it''s their right to defend".

That excuse is not good enough, not any more, when young people are being killed by police who are trigger happy.

Only the Pope is infallible you know.  Police officers may be trained to the hilt, but their judgement is only as good as their actions on the day at that moment.

I read this article.  It's a good read.

I wonder why America thinks it has the right to police the world?

I wonder why.  Is it because they have an arsenal of weaponry and they feel that gives them the right to defend.  What the fuck are they defending on a foreign shore?

There are riots going on now in Ferguson, Missouri, because a youth, Michael Brown, went into a store and stole cigars and then pushed the shop owner about.  He was a bully, a thug, and a thief.  They say he was a teenager, and so that makes what he did less of a crime than if he were a man albeit a young one?

I saw the CCTV footage. I saw how he behaved. I would be ashamed to be his mother.  He was huge.   He swatted that shop owner like he was a fly, and left the shop with goods that the shop owner owned.

This 'boy'  then struggled with the police officer for his gun !  Can you imagine what he might have done if he had got the gun?    In this instance he was shot.  Maybe it was the only thing to do.  Maybe the officer felt he had no choice - it might have been the 'boy' or him, or perhaps the gun went off in the struggle.  I wonder what would have happened if the officer had died?
Would there have been the same backlash?

In retrospect, if the gun had not been there, the boy would have run off and probably been apprenhended later, but the gun was the issue here.

The police officer did his job.  The 'boy' died and the community want blood.  It's not the police officer's fault in this case.  In this case it is America's fault.

If you wants the facts I copied from WIKI.

You choose what you want to believe.  I know a gun was present.  That's all we need to know.
If you commit a crime in America, and you are running from police, you may be shot depending upon circumstances and the skill/judgement of the officer present.  Good grief.

It's not good enough is it?  He stole cigars and threatened a shop keeper..  it's bad but it's not  something to die over.

Here's the facts

It's time America took a good hard look at itself.  If you pick a spot it becomes a scab. if you pick the scab it weeps and turns into a scar.

I value human life.  No - strike that - I value life in all forms, but then I was raised in a country where we respect other people and don't feel the need to arms ourselves against our friends and neighbours.


Monday, 24 November 2014

I'm a girl with two homes

Lucky or what?  I have to keep pinching myself !

I have a house where I live with my family - and they all still live at home albeit on and off.......... they all still have a bedroom here and I do a mountain of washing and the bloody ironing as well every week.
I'm old fashioned in that I change the beds every week too so that means the washing of the sheets, and I don't own a tumble drier (can afford to buy one but not the bills it incurs).........

My home is full of people and of course our pets ....of which there is an abundance.
It's clean, but messy and the carpets suffer with the doggie feet coming in and out constantly.  This weekend we have been having family celebrations and so the kitchen this morning was somewhere I made a cup of tea in and did not hang around.  I'm not mentally ready to begin the clean up yet :)

It's a typical, normal (I hope) family house.  We live here and boy do we live hard !

I would love it to be perfect but I have to accept it won't be like that until the day they have all gone, and by then it will be too big for me, and I'll downsize anyway, so messy it is, and messy is what I have to accept until the day I leave.

My home is a far cry from my other home - my flat.

I remember a favourite client saying to me when I bought it - don't put anything personal in it.  Keep it clean and sparce - a workplace..

Ha!  I failed on that one I can tell ya!

I made a vow to myself that the flat would be a food free zone and I have stuck to that rule.  The fridge is only used for drinks with the odd exception here and there - hey!  I'm not perfect :)

The kitchen is pristine and clean at all times.  I have fairy lights in there and candles, and some dinky ornaments as well as the kettle.  The bathroom is always clean, and the bedroom is cosy and pretty unlike my own bedroom at home which is not but does have the luxury of a telly with Netflix......

The sitting room in the flat is the cosiest of all.  The sofa is a dog free zone and is comfy.  I have things around me which I like, and when I sit in there I feel like a different person to the one I am at home.  I can go along with this - I am a Gemini after all.

At home I have to behave like a mum, and in the flat I can do whatever I want to.  I walk around naked and I do my ironing from home there.  Sometimes I watch porn on the TV as I do the ironing.  I don't think I could do that at home do you !

The flat is my bolt hole, it's my saviour, and strangely I think it is what keeps me sane.

We all need a little time to ourselves - even if it is just our own private and personal thoughts, but it's nicer to have some place to go where you can kick off your shoes and relax.

I relax when I go out walking, but it's not quite the same sort of mental haven as the flat.

Smug then?  Maybe a little, but lucky is a better word.  In fact bloody lucky is more apt I should say :)

Tuesday, 18 November 2014

Lies, untruths, made up rubbish, and then somewhere in the middle all of this

...there might be some truth, but you will  have to make up your own mind.............

Everyone in life who has something to sell, has some form of agenda.  I think this is a fair statement to make..  Whether the 'thing' they  are selling you is an idea, or a product..or the person themself.. it has to be made attractive to you the buyer/consumer, and there are those who don't exactly tell the whole truth.............  :)

I'll give you an example of an agenda of the selling sort.

"I am a sexy voluptuous escort".
Okay, lets read and take this comment apart. The reality here could be that the sexy bit is not for the woman , but her clients to say ?  No?
And the voluptuous bit...  what if that actually translates as 'fat' ? eh??   As for the rest of the statement - well this means she is a prostitute.

So, you could say she is a fat prostitute.

The fat prostitute selling her arse would not say that though would she, or she would never get a client, unless they were actually looking for a fat prostitute.
You have to make yourself seem desirable even if you know you were not.  This is business and who ever said that business was not cut throat, and.
Marketing is what gets the punter in through the door.  Once he is through that door you may well be sexy.. who knows.

The sex industry is full of lies.  The Internet allows you to write anything, and when a lady writes her own profile, she can make you believe things that are simply not true, and who is there to say she is a liar?

Selling sex is like selling fresh air.  You can make anything up and there will always be some mug willing to believe it, and breathe it in.

Those people who seek to promote the sex industry and would have you believe what they say is correct have an agenda. They could write the truth, but the truth is obviously not enough to convince if you read on..............

Here is one lot of rubbish I came across today.

-lies-we-have-to-stop-telling-about-sex-workers


Click on it and read.  It's interesting, and some parts of it are spot on, but only some parts.  Let's face it -  the people who wrote this have an agenda too don't they?

They have the same scheme as those who would have the entire sex industry abolished and made against the law.

Nobody wants to meet the other side in the middle and come to a reasonable agreement because there is too much to lose on both sides.

I'll go through those nine statements and tell what my take on them is..

I..Sex work is not real work.

Some sex workers like the person who wrote that piece and myself  and others are professional in that they adopt a positive attitude to their work.  They take it seriously.  They don't lie on their profiles, they don't have photoshop in their galleries, and they say they take the welfare of their client seriously.

How many people don't lie then?  Take the above statement again..   "I am a sexy voluptuous escort".

Look at some of the galleries, and decide for yourself.  Look at the amount of ladies who only show their boobs and not their stomachs and their fat legs.  They don't show you that because you would know they were fat.  They choose to use the word 'voluputoous' instead, and only show you a portion of their body, generally squashed up in something they can't breathe is :)

How can you believe what they say when it's clear they lie about the most important things???

Some sex workers don't give a crap about their clients.  Some girls don't speak, some want to get you in and out as quickly as possible.  Some girls are not even the same person as in the photos, and some girls are reluctant to work because they are made to by some pimp.

You can't make a broad statement like that and only use yourself as the example to set the bar.


2.  Sex workers need to be rescued

Okay..  not all people in the sex industry are sex workers.  Not all of them wish to do this.  Some of them have been trafficked, and forced to do this by someone else.  Some of them have been brought here with the promise of a waitressing job or similar, only to find they have to have sex with lots of men in order to pay off their pimp for their passport.

No I don't need to be rescued, but these people clearly do.

It's no good turning a blind eye just because you have it good.  There are others who live in misery who desperately need to be rescued.

3.  Most sex workers are victims of human trafficking

Of course they aren't.  There are many people who choose this line of work.  Some are trafficked, some are pimped, and some choose to do it because they need to pay for drugs, and some choose to do it because it is easy money and  none of the above care about their clients, and then there are people like me who do.

This statement is used by both the pros and the antis to make you think someone said it in the first place, but that is nonsense.

Arguments like this are weak and misleading and do not help anyone.

4 .Most sex workers have pimps

More hysteria.  I would say that a heck of a lot do but there are some of us whose only pimp is HMRCS.

5.All sex workers are women

I would love to know where they got this claptrap from !  What a poorly written article.  This is a prime example of someone with a weak argument inventing statements that nobody actually made

6 Supporting the decriminalisation of sex work is anti feminist

This is a matter for individuals to decide.  I do not think that legalising the sex trade here will ever happen.  I think that by decriminalising it will make the sex trafficking and the abuse something much mote difficult to stop.  That's only my opinion, but I am a sex worker and entitled to say what I think, since I am an honest one and don't lie in my profile.

I wonder how many others who do support this argument do?

7.Sex work is always a job of last resort

Another broad sweeping load of  bullshit.  Some women do use it as a last resort, and some don't.  Who said this for them to say it's not?

8.Sex workers spread sexually transmitted diseases to the general public

Some of them do and some of them don't.  Stop talking rubbish to get support.  Lots of ladies offer bareback sex these days, you only have to go onto Adultwork to see that, and lots of ladies give it to their regulars while saying they never do................  :)

9. Nobody that you know is a sex worker

I would love to know where they got that one from.  Straight out of a story book.

You see.....  it's the  person who writes tripe like this who make it worse for any level of understanding.

Listen dearie, when I go home from work and get on with my life I am not a sex worker.  I'm only one when I'm actually working.  If I pass another sex worker in the supermarket, then she isn't one either unless she is shagging someone in one of the aisles.

Hysteria never works.  It just makes you look desperate.  If you don't belive me, take a look at some of our politicians :)



Monday, 17 November 2014

Are You a Hare or a Tortoise?

...By nature or design?

I am Hare for my sins.  I rush about and get little done, but feel exhausted in the doing of it and at the end wonder what all of that effort was about !

I could not be a plodder.  It's just not in my nature to be like this.  I'm not good at keeping my own counsel either.  I like to be forthright and honest, but not hurtful.  I'll say it like it is but I'll temper my words.  I don't watch something happening and sit by and say nothing and then when it has all gone wrong then say I knew that would happen.

I'm not like this in my own world as a working girl.  I don't like the liars and the cheats and those who pretend to be saints for the cause either.  If something happens to another girl, I will be there giving public support.  I won't sit on the sidelines watching as somebody flounders, seeing the attacks on the internet and not stepping up to the mark in case they come in for the flak as well.

I'm not keen on people who are like that.  I find them to be smug and self serving...  a bit like Bob Geldof.  He's a smug one isn't he?

I won't be tempering my words now because I feel angry with Saint Bob.

I watched him touting his latest fund raising effort on TV last night, and found the sight and sound of the man nauseating.

He actually said he was going to stop Ebola !  So - he's God now is he?

In November 1984 They released 'Do they know it's Christmas' as a charity single for famine in Africa.  It raised $14million.
  
On 13th July 1985, I watched 'Live Aid.  At that time I was a student doing a piece work job in a factory and I saw this man going mad on the TV.  I was amazed at his behaviour and couldn't wait to help.
I was so moved I donated most of my wage that week.  £100 in fact.  This was a massive contribution and I was so proud of myself, feeling that I was a part of this groundbreaking effort to stop starvation in Africa.
This was a massive effort, and with the involvement of America there was about £30Million raised.

I would like to ask Bob where my money went to exactly?  It sure as hell didn't go to the starving in Africa, I can say that with conviction.  I donated that money and was glad to do so.  So come on Bob, what went wrong then?  Where did it go?  Where did all of the money go?  There should have been a public account of what that money was spent on as the public donated it !

I think in light of his ;latest fund raising effort by reusing an old song and asking us once again to empty our pockets, I now want to know exactly what he did with all the other money.   I think that is a fair question don't you?

 Only a small portion of that money went on projects to help those poor people.  Most of it was misused.  Lots of it went to buy guns, and there were still people strarving months and years later.  They are starving again now, but to add to that they are riddled with Aids and Ebola.


I wonder why he thinks he should be fronting another fund raiser when the funds he raised the last time were not used for the purpose?

I would also like to ask him why he still takes royalties from the Band Aid record Do they know it's Christmas?   I did not know he was doing that.

Isn't it all awfully wrong?

Why should I listen to a wrong'un asking for my money?  Why should he be allowed to do this?  Why can't the man stay out of the limelight?  Couldn't he have asked someone else to front this and stay in the wings.  Couldn't he have had a wash and combed his hair at least?

Go away Bob Geldof I dislike you intensely. I dislike your mentality, your attitude to life, and your ego.  I would rather give my money to projects at home here in the UK.  Cancer research, Altzheimer's and to the homeless here.  There will be young people on the streets at Christmas, Bob.  Would it be a nice gesture to give some of your millions to a homeless person at Christmas because they really do know it's Christmas.

Yes, I'm a Hare.  Bob Geldof is true to his nature, he is and always has been a Rat

Friday, 14 November 2014

Katie Hopkins. Love her or hate her?

She's rather controversial isn't she?  If you don't know who this person is, then Google her !  You will find that she is someone who says what we all think but don't dare to air our views ! !

Most of the time I have to say that I agree with her opinions.  Some of the time I agree but think she goes too far with her comments. but then again I talk to people who are fed up of this country being taken for granted by people who come from other countries and wish to live here and claim benefits.

I think this is the stance most people have these days, but they are too frightened to speak out in case they are called racists.

Don't you think we are all racist in some way or another.. the world over?
There are various definitions of 'Racism' and the most popular seems to be that a racist thinks he is better (superior) than people from other races  by definition of creed or colour......  I think that is over egging the pudding
Racism is another word for nationalism or patriotism...  it just sounds worse is all...  and other people from other countries are equally as racist because we all have this sense of what is mine and what is yours........  it's just the ones who come to live here who think they own the place that get my goat :-)

I mean...  how can you own anything when you rely on state handouts?

*smile*

For the record, I do not believe that anyone owns the land they live in simply because they were born there.  That is rubbish.  As time goes on, and the world  becomes smaller and a lot more volatile, people will move away from a troublesome place in favour of a place where they can live without fear and have some peace in their lives.

If this country became unsafe for me to raise my children I would think about leaving also, so I do not blame anyone for wanting to come here.  Indeed I welcome new people into my life, and have brought my children up to be like this.

There is no racism in my family, nor am I jingoistic or any of the other negative descriptions you could think of, but...  there are certain traditions I uphold and will not concede to anyone who comes to live in the place I was born in and after a time thinks he can put his traditions from his country of his origin over the ones I hold dear, and demand I stop wearing my poppy as one example.

We should all be able to practise what makes us happy provided it does not encroach upon someone else's life.

Yes.. there are some things that I get annoyed about - such as seeing really obese people going into Maccy Dees and that is before they have even ordered  a meal big enough to feed Australia and then wonder why they can't fit on an aeroplane seat and kick off when they need two seats and only want to pay for one :)  *inhales*

And don't get me started on Diabetes............

Y'know.. that sorta thing.............

There are other far more sinister practices I object to.......... such as the wearing of religious garb as an everyday item.

I object to those ladies who wear the full  religious head to toe with a slit for the eyes garb when they are out shopping.  (I call it the Dalek) I find them offensive and frightening.  This is something I personally resent.  I find it disturbing, and so this does encroach upon my comfort and security.

To be honest.. I think anyone who feels the need to wear something that defines him religiously  makes him separate him from the rest of us, and I wonder why these people feel the need to display their religious beliefs in a shopping mall or any where else for that matter.

It is not the wearing of the threads - it's the intent behind the wearing of them and the contempt for those of us who don't feel the need to make a public display of our private beliefs.

How can you possibly live alongside people with whom you do not wish to integrate ?  Why be here if you feel like this?

I don't wear my XXXX coat...  Why would I want you to know what my faith is when it is nothing to do with you or anyone else?

 If you feel the need to don a silly hat then to me you are being passively aggressive, and the religious part of it is merely an excuse, for something more hostile.

Put it all on when you are off to your church (by any other name)  when you are actually going to worship, and then go home, take it off and wear something else when you are not.

If you feel you can't live without wearing your silly hat, then keep it on and live somewhere else. Take your religious anger with you and inflict it on another country.......... oh.. I fogot.  Other countries don't pay benefits to immigrants......................   silly me.

Here in good old Blighty we accept everything in case we get called racist.
The problem here is that we accept so much that, we are slowly, being swallowed up, by other cultures and their demands for religious identity, so much that we are beginning to lose our  own identity as a nation in the process, which in itself is not so much of a problem .  It's the allowing of  others to tell us they will do what the hell they like whether or not we happen to approve.

We have no say any more.  We dare not have opnions !  That is where this woman steps in with her size nines and says it like we would like to......

Katie Hopkins is a person who stands up for what she thinks is right, and I admire her for it, but she is dreadful !

And I'm glad Scotland is still a part of the Union.  To cut away would have been another nail in this collective nation's coffin.


Tuesday, 11 November 2014

Punting - do you have a set of rules for it?

I suppose it depends on your attitude to the  'hobby' if you have any sort of guideline that you stick to

Here's mine :_

Have a wash even if there is an R in the month

Do not steal from wallets

Don't keep watches to sell on eBay after a suitable time lapse

Don't call the younger ones 'son'.......

Stop polishing the hall floor with Mr.Sheen - or the shower...  remember you don't have public liability insurance.

Don't have hidden spy cameras in 'the room'

Don't open the door as the client approaches and drag him in.. it is unnerving.

Remember to remove the gimp-mask when leaving the flat

Ha!

Advertise as  truthfully as possible without putting in any personal info obviously

Be as discreet as I can so I do not compromise the safety, privacy and security of either myself or my client.  Notice I put myself first here, of course I bloody well do :)

Give as good a service to my client as I possibly can each and every time - even to those who I will not ever see again, and bearing in mind that we are as a species from completely different planets when it comes to the genders and then throw sex into the mix :)

Try to work with integrity.  This is difficult.  If I am seeing a client and do not feel the appointment is going well, should I cut it short?  This would depend on how far we have gone.  If we have already begun with the very personal stuff then it's a no, but if we have not and I don't feel comfortable on either their behalf or mine, then I would ask them if they are happy to go ahead.

One of the reasons I don't have a menu of sorts is because I may not want to do certain things with some clients.  This might be down to personal hygiene or attitude, or my own discomfort,  so no menu for me.

Have limits.  The age limit is for my comfort and for your embarrassment. Other limits may apply - allow for circumstances which may crop up, and be true to myself.
 
I might add to this.  I think it's important to be honest and fair with clients.  I want the nice ones to come back after all !